At this point in our lives, we all have our core group of close friends. It can be three, four, or even ten friends, but for the most part, we know our basic crew. But over the course of a few years, life experiences can either bring some of you closer together while others drift apart. It’s a sad fact of life, but almost all of us will experience a relationship that has run it’s course and it can be awkward and weird when you realize too late that your once close friend is suddenly an acquaintance. Here are a few signs that your friendship is likely all but over.
1. YOU STOP MAKING PLANS TO HANG OUT.
It could be something as simple as a picture she posted on Instagram to make you suddenly realize that you haven’t hung out in ages. One of the first things that happen when your friendship has run its course is that neither of you go out of your way to make any plans with each other when life gets busy and schedules conflict.
2. YOU HAVE SEPARATE GROUPS OF FRIENDS.
Not only are you not going out with your friend, you’ve noticed that your circle of current close friends and her circle of current close friends aren’t from the same pool. If your friends and her friends don’t know each other or hang out, this could be because your life no longer intersects with hers like it used to.
3. YOUR CONVERSATIONS ARE BASED ON REMINISCING.
In the rare instance that you find time to see each other, you may start to notice that the conversation doesn’t flow as easily as it used to. What used to be an effortless bitch session with a friend has now turned into something that resembles the awkwardness of a first date. As a result, you both end up talking about the old times and HOW IT USED TO BE, because there’s really nothing in your current lives that either of you can relate to or share.
4. SHE DOESN’T KNOW WHAT’S GOING ON IN YOUR LIFE.
When someone at work accidentally emailed a curse filled rant about the boss, TO THE BOSS, it was the hot news you told all your friends for the day… but she wasn’t one of them. After a terrible fight with your boyfriend, this person isn’t on your list to call when you want to cry and vent your feelings anymore. Your friendship is coming to an end when you don’t share your lives with her as much as you used to and soon, it becomes the norm. If neither of you are sharing the little nuances in your lives with each other, that’s a major indicator that your friendship is cooling down.
5. YOU HAVE DIFFERENT INTERESTS NOW.
Over the course of our life, your interests come and go, but usually your friends are privy to all your little whims and lifestyle changes, and some might even join you in whatever underwater basket weaving class you decided to take at the Learning Annex, because that’s what good friends do. While it’s not an end all of a friendships, if your friend isn’t in on your new interests or if you have no clue what she’s into nowadays, then it’s probably because you’re beginning to drift apart.