Writing an obituary is a solemn duty that often falls to family members when someone we love passes away. It’s a chance to pay tribute to the individual and reflect on their life. While many obituaries aim to highlight the best qualities of the deceased, some families opt for a brutally honest approach, providing a glimpse into the complexities of their relationship.
Obituaries are not private affairs. They are published in newspapers and sometimes even shared online, reaching dozens or even hundreds of people. This means that the obituary becomes a lasting testament that can’t be hidden away.
One such example of an unvarnished obituary is that of Kathleen Dehmlow, penned by her two adult children. What began as a seemingly ordinary tribute took a surprising turn towards the end, revealing deep-rooted family issues. While shocking, it had a touch of dark humor that resonated with many readers.
The obituary was originally published in the Redwood Falls Gazette, but the backlash it received prompted its removal. It quickly went viral, drawing even more attention than it would have if it had simply stated “a lot of stuff that is missing.”
A family member confirmed the authenticity of the obituary. However, Dwight, another family member, offered a different perspective. He acknowledged that his mother had made a mistake in her life but had regretted it over the years, emphasizing that we all make mistakes.
Critics raised questions about the obituary’s legitimacy, leading the CEO and founder of the paper to address the issue. He clarified that publishing an obituary, regardless of its content, was not illegal. The paper took the complaints seriously and thoroughly reviewed the situation, upholding their commitment to maintaining high content standards.
Now, you’re probably curious to know what was written in the obituary. We understand the intrigue. So, without further ado, here it is:
“Kathleen Dehmlow (Schunk) was born on March 19, 1938, in Wabasso, Minnesota, and died on May 31, 2018, in Springfield, and will now face judgment. She abandoned her children, Gina and Jay, who were then raised by her parents, confirmed by Dwight.”
This brief but powerful statement left a lasting impact on those who read it. While it may have caused pain for some, it also served as a reminder of the complexities of human relationships and the importance of forgiveness.
In the end, honesty can be jarring, but it is also a powerful catalyst for reflection and growth. Obituaries, whether brutally honest or glowing with praise, allow us to remember and honor those who shaped our lives, warts and all.
